When I found out about my husband's porn use, my life flipped upside down!
- How long has this been going on?
- Has he been lying to me?
- Can I trust him?
- Will this be forever?
My Worries Became All-Consuming
- I wanted all of the questions to be answered right now! I wanted to know exactly what my future would look like. I needed at least a smidgen of certainty in the midst of the mental chaos.
- I felt like I needed to know EVERYTHING in order to feel trust again. They followed me to the swimming pool, to the grocery store, to family outings, to church, to bed, to vacations, to work, to the park.
Your Husband's porn use is not about you.
Then, A Small Shift Happened: I Chose Love
- The oxytocin created from feeling the emotion of love can literally heal damaged heart tissue.
- With thoughtful awareness, I knew I could feel better if I just forced myself to stop hating pornography. That, however, was so misaligned with who I am.
- Thank goodness there is a different solution.
- Choosing love didn’t mean loving the porn. It meant loving myself fiercely in order to heal from the shame and deeply believe I am enough.
How I can help yOU!
It is possible to find joy in your relationship while also maintaining your religious values.
When you live a life rooted in self-compassion,
your loved one's behavior has much less impact
on your feelings of self-worth.
I use 6 pillars of self-compassion to make this transition seamless and forever.
I Can't Help You If:
- You're not willing to see your husband as lovable
- You're not willing to see your husband as a human who is struggling
- You're not willing to at least on occasion try to see what is going on for HIM
- You're not willing to refrain from talking badly about your husband
This is Me
After years of searching, I finally found the guy I wanted to be with for longer than 5 min. Marriage finally felt within my grasp.
My life-long dream was shattered when he told me about his 10+ years of pornography use. I believed a happy, strong, successful marriage would never be possible with him, so our relationship ended. Fortunately, with time and personal growth, we started dating again and eventually got married.
I secretly hoped that being married would cure his pornography use. I was VERY wrong. His first relapse came after only three weeks. I believed I wasn't enough, and there was no going back; I felt trapped. I didn't want this marriage any more.
After finding life coaching, however, I learned how to choose my husband regardless of his behavior. It took time, but I began to truly believe that my husband's pornography use is not about me.
My life-long dream was shattered when he told me about his 10+ years of pornography use. I believed a happy, strong, successful marriage would never be possible with him, so our relationship ended. Fortunately, with time and personal growth, we started dating again and eventually got married.
I secretly hoped that being married would cure his pornography use. I was VERY wrong. His first relapse came after only three weeks. I believed I wasn't enough, and there was no going back; I felt trapped. I didn't want this marriage any more.
After finding life coaching, however, I learned how to choose my husband regardless of his behavior. It took time, but I began to truly believe that my husband's pornography use is not about me.
It is possible to move past wanting to want to connect with your husband, and ACTUALLY experience true connection.
You ready?
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Camille Scow Coaching LLC